Quieteuphorian, 57

what if it's not "only" or "more than" anything? it often seems the more i try to describe what i'm seeking, the further i get from it because i don't think in terms of relationship "categories." it seems this should be so, so very simple. if i like you and you like me, isn't that good enough? but there are so many preconceptions. it's not about "romantic" or "platonic." it's about being real with each other right from the start, whether about --- or anything else, just because that works best and because we care about one another. it's not about "long-term" or "short-term." people are going to stay together exactly as long as they wish, no more and no less, so let's just see what happens instead of trying to make it permanent or impermanent. it's not about dominance or submission. it's about each of us stepping out of our own ways and finding ways for all to get what we want/need without the need to control others (i like looking for "win-win" situations). it's not about "just" friends or "more than" friends. it's about relating with each other based on our actual desires and needs, and not based on our positions on some silly hierarchical ladder. my friends are important to me, regardless of gender and whether or not there's a ------ aspect to the relationship. period. there's no "just" or "more than" about it. i feel that friendship is a benefit in itself, whether or not --- is involved, so the usual phrases like "friends," "friends first," etc. are a bit redundant. they're really just euphemisms to avoid mentioning --- (and i'm not into avoiding any subject). frankly, i think all communication is relating--and therefore a relationship--not only the communication that fits into some box, type, category, or whatever! am i seeking a "serious" relationship? well, that depends...if "serious" means exclusive, then no. however, if it means based on honesty, actually giving a damn about one another, respect, etc., then hell yes. freedom and caring can be compatible, you know.