Interestring forum.

[fringey]

I know opposites CAN attract, but do they always? Not really. I find people are attracted to people who are generally like themselves, with similar interests. Of course, there is basic physical attraction which you can have for just about anyone. But, for a more deep and meaningful relationship, shared interests are generally what draw people together because they have a common ground to share.

Patrick
a.k.a. Fringey, The Fringe Element
"A life lived without passion is a life not lived."

[dallasoregon (deleted)]

I've seen it happen for many people, it's new, interesting and full of possibilities.

[goddessluna]

`Sometimes yes and sometimes no. I know I'm not going to hold my breath about it, beside I think I am tired of the opposites.

[harvey6674]

`Based upon my experience, the attraction of opposites is best left in the realm of physics. Sure, someone quite opposite you may seem captivating for a while, but, if truly your opposite, your differences in character, morals, values, and aspirations can, and likely will, be more than the relationship can bear. Of course, you don't want someone exactly like you, either. The relationship tends to become too boring and predictable. For me, I find that someone with whom I share core values, ambitions, and desires, but who views the world from a different angle, someone with whom I can learn from and her from me, that we have just enough differences to keep one another's attention, but not so much so that those differences drive a wedge between us, works best.

[rafata]

`Scientifically speaking, opposites significantly only attract in the area of gender. And the correlation for neuroticism in stable relationships is also negative. For the rest of the traits that were looked into, it was same and same attract.

[shannontg]

`I don't think opposites attract in terms of romantic relationships. True opposites generally breed conflict, however complimentary characteristics have a better chance of creating a symbiosis. The important difference is that a compliment makes up for something the other lacks rather than conflicting with it. The relationship is parallel. For example, if one partner is a spendthrift and the other partner is a stingy bastard, they can reasonably help and balance one another. The spendthrift can teach the bastard how to have fun and indulge sometimes yet the stingy bastard would probably ensure that there was enough savings to indulge only when its really worth it. When the couple behaves this way and works together to compensate for the others shortcomings they are compliments. When the bastard beats the spendthrift at the end of the day because they no longer have a proverbial pot, they are opposites.

[voiddancer]

I am new here and this is my first post. Hope I can find the forms again and this thread. It is funny, but unfortunately I am serious lol

I think opposites attract each other, but they do present a lot of opposition to each other and the experience tends to be growth through conflict and friction.

I sort of wonder is we are not all really looking for completeness and unity. The continual search for that piece that is always missing, a longing for the perfect mate. As a old saying goes; “Love is all you need and all you need is Love. It seems that Love is the ultimate truth that lies at the heart of creation ¦ The Heart is our best guide.

I this sense we are like split souls, looking for the other half that is a perfect match and the same in all ways. Like one soul in two bodies. Twine flames, which would be the same, not opposite.

Just thoughts on the Question ¦ Have an Awesome day

Void Dancer

[unteddybear]

First post as well

Well, I believe many opposites are naturally present within one single person. In other words, we not only become what we choose to be, we also forget we could have become what we didn't choose to be.

If we feel attracted to someone we judge much different from us, I think that means we are merely wondering about the choices we previously made - becoming who we are now.
I do not think this is of any relevance in the possible outcomes in the relationship between two people;
no matter how similar or different they are, a strong bond between two souls (be it love or friendship) ignores all "exterior", "apparent" factors.

In other words, I believe each and every people are equally different from the others, if one is to "dig" deep enough.
However, understanding (or at least trying hard...) people that we would call "alien" to us, is a very good way to learn, to widen our mind and consciousness.

All the same, there 's no gain nor anything to learn without risks :)

[mark82]

`Personaly, I'm only ever attracted to girls who are similar to my own personality and level of intellect.

[absent]

`Money has a unique quality in that everyone is attracted to it. And if you can't buy love, ping is always an option.

[swannie]

`I would say it does work most of the time because it's the difference that spice things up! Generally, people would go for someone who has same level of interest/personality as theirs... but at some point, things eventually gets boring. So perhaps a bit of both sides will be nice to at least balance things out ^_^

[unzerbrechlich (deleted)]

`Typically, people want to be with others who they can understand and relate to, but relationships are by no means limited to this; sometimes its exhilarating and rather eye-opening to converse and spend time with people of diverse beliefs, likes, and dislikes. If a positively charged magnet is attracted to negatively charged magnets, why can't two different types of people do the same?

[snowyowlbaby87]

`opposites do indeed attract, My husband and i are polar opposite but, our differences keep us intrigued.

[jared44]

That's a pretty thin line to walk. But based on my experience it is very true.

[mariakay (deleted)]

`I think it is true also. Wonder why that happens? Generally I attract the serious, conservative, quiet "nerd" types because that is what I am, yet I am fascinated by the bad boy look and bikes...