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I've been fairly sure for the last 4 years or so that I don't want to inject any podlings into a woman's abdomen, not this time around the circle of life. At the same time it sounds like a fun activity (thank you instincts) and also good experience for understanding someone else on a more fundamental level than just a handshake. I'm cool with condoms and all, but I feel like going the next step and becoming infertile would be a real weight off my shoulders. I have expressed worries in the past about how I'm waiting until the vasectomy to have sex, and I think in some cases I might have even missed an opportunity and/or let someone down when we were drifting towards doing it together.
So how should I go about getting a vasectomy? I'm not employed, so I don't have any kind of health care in this country. I haven't had a personal physician since at least 2002, so I don't really know who to approach or ask. I've heard a vasectomy can be as little as $50, but I wonder if that counts the $300 doctors charge these days for the luxury of merely being in their presence? Are there any who would charge just the $50? Also many doctors I ask don't even respond to me, or tell me that I should age more and have a few children before considering a vasectomy. Freaking breeders.... Then there are the swindlers out there, who take advantage of what little money economically oppressed people can scrape together.
It's really frustrating me. I want to stop using being fertile as an excuse to avoid sex, and at least be able to tell people, "This is what I committed to. This is what you know to expect of me." It's hard to believe, but some people to this day tell me that I cannot possibly be considering rejecting the blessed gift of children, that there must be some other reason, and if I fix it suddenly I'll earnestly want one of my dearest friends swollen, sickened and screaming laid back on a table as... bleah. You know what I mean.
This is all about me understand--not about whoever female love I happen to come together with. It would be horribly wrong in my mind if I wanted a vasectomy to please someone else, or to force them not to have children. Many masochists enjoy being pierced with hot needles, and many women enjoy (some aspects of) being pregnant, so all I'm saying is they can do that stuff as they will, just I don't want to be the one doing the piercing/parasitizing. Heck I don't even have a problem with children; some of them are awesome, and I usually treat them like people not precious commodities or animals. Just I don't want any of my own. The very thought gives me the creeps...
Oh also this thread isn't about STDs. That's a separate issue that doesn't have anything to do with a vasectomy.
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